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Hi, everyone. We are so excited to have you here for the

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first y live with Nfl thread,

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benefiting mom bombs

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I am just so excited to have you guys all here, and this is

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so excited. So before Cynthia introduces Tommy, I would love for everyone in the audience.

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to broadcast live. So if you look at Tommy,

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and myself, you'll see we have a little globe. So if you look down at the bottom to your left,

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you will see something where you can say broadcast live, and you can send that

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to anything from Linkedin to Twitter, and that actually

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people out there. So your listeners can listen in

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without having to be in the app. That's one of the things I love so much.

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about Fireside. So really quickly, this is what's so exciting is that Cynthia met

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Tommy,

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and Troy in Philadelphia in nineteen ninety six.

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where Michael and Troy were both defensive facts for the eagles

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so, Cynthia, can you please introduce Tommy and we can get into the story because it is an exciting one.

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it is ...absolutely. I am so excited to introduce my

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friend and serious inspiration

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Tommy Vincent, I'll tell you to Tommy, there's so many things.

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tommy is a chef. She's a motivational speaker.

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she is the major of Vincent country, which

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It's a concept that I cannot wait until Tommy shares with you.

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it's for everybody. She's also the producer back to the table that's

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a Youtube series, and she's a host of her very own podcast day a while. So

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While, Tommy, there's gonna be a lot to talk about with big today.

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I'm so glad to be here and to be a part of this amazing conversation

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station, and thank you, ladies vote for establishing a

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platform that is allowing the amazing women of

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the Nfl to shine. I appreciate it.

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Yes.

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Yes. Oh, I'm just ...again, and I'm so happy to be a part of this

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because I was talking to Tommy about. I read an article that Cynthia

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put out of the playbook. And I usually, you know, do a little research

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you guys have followed me and and and followed my podcast, your neck

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stop. I do a little bit of research, but I love to hear the story come unfold.

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because that's my my favorite is conversations, but I wanted to read this because

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Tommy has so many things that she's doing. First of all, she's a Jersey girl.

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so she grew up in New Jersey, which I am as well. So I connected there

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she's got five children. I was one of five

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And one of the things I'm gonna just talk about, and then I want Tommy to get into her story is

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she is doing so many things. And one of the things when I was looking through her social media, one of the things that

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Tommy said is that women should not have to do it all at once.

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you can do it all, but not at once. And that just resonated with me so much.

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and the the fact that Tommy is where she is, she

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got, you know, a very prominent husband who's been in the Nfl and now is an executive in the Nfl.

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organization, and she's raised five children.

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And so Tommy, can you get into the story about what happened in

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thousand and ten and how that kind of

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formed you and now where you are,

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Yeah. Absolutely. So

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I'm so glad that you were starting the conversation this way because

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oftentimes times, we we arrive at stages in our life, and we

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recognize that there's something off. There's something that needs

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to be adjusted so that we can truly thrive

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and we lose sight of a major question that we should be asking ourselves.

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How did I get here?

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And in order for us to create the chain

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age necessary and required for us to fully

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move forward in life and blossom some flourish, the way that we have the possibilities

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of you have to be able to answer that question. So

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to your point, Juliet, there was a time in my life where

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I woke up one day, and it really felt all of a sudden.

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And it just ...it's a key indicator knowing that

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as we're moving in life,

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If you think about

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If you think about

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a row

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you think about light in a room,

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and the light is continually adjusting throughout the day.

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and it

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adjust settle, you don't even recognize the address

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miss because your eyes naturally adapt.

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And then at some point, the light goes out.

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in the room is dark. And so for me, that's what happened to me.

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the light was on. It was on, and then all of a sudden

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the light went off.

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And because the light was adjusting gradually in my life,

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I did not recognize that I was in trouble.

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And so I really went to a

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a place where I felt like,

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man, who am I?

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like, what happened to me and

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what has taken place in my life because I'm looking around, and I see my husband thriving. I

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see my children thriving, but there's an aspect of me that just

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is not alive.

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And I spent a great deal of time in the bed.

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And I knew that if I did not

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address. How did I get here that I would be forever in that

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place where I was just

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moving through life,

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watching everyone else around me, growing and flourishing, and I would just remain where I was

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And so I went to counseling, and I got the support I needed. I got the

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strategy I needed so that I could move from this place

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understanding how I got here so that as I step into my new

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that I do not repeat the same behavior the

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same actions that got me where I was in that moment.

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Tommy, that's ...I mean, that ...it ...I got chills because

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as as mothers. Right? And as wives,

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we pour into our families, and some of us do it more naturally than others.

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I mean, I I really feel like some of us are very maternal and We've literally

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lose ourselves because we are are following, you know, what we feel is is right.

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but then all of a sudden and our children get a little older. So can you share with us how old were your children at that

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time.

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So I had one daughter who

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at that time, she was

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in college, and then I had one of my sons with

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in high school, the other one was a middle school, and then our twins were in elementary school.

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and

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So there was still a lot of life happening in a lot of moving parts

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Yeah.

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Mhmm.

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sports and, you know, engagements and all these different things that

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come along with

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you know, being a mom and if

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if you are a mom worth your salt,

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So

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you truly desire to see

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your children win

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Right.

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And so you we do things to

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make sure that's happening for them.

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Right. And we lose ourselves a little bit.

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And I mean, as you said, you were losing yourself, but you didn't realize that.

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And so after you went to counseling, was this around the same time because this is one of

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things that stood out and the article that I just was like, this is so beautiful and

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think it says so much about your relationship with your husband.

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that you guys around Christmas were writing out your goals.

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and I actually got choked up when I read it because I was like, wow. That is a really

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powerful.

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that was a really powerful statement, but also a powerful time like, I could

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put myself in this situation sitting in your living room.

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with your family. Can you tell us a little bit about that? And what came out of that?

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Yeah. So that was actually before I went to count

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playing, and we were

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It was. Okay.

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yet. So we were sitting around, but but when you hear this,

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story. You'll completely get why

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Mhmm.

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like, you have to snatch your own life back because

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Right.

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it is it's on you, but we set

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and we had this conversation. Troy and i, we

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we didn't want to continue to invest

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in areas of life in our in the areas of our children's life that weren't going to

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produce meaningful fruit for them. And, you know, that

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something that we

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parents, you can get into that pattern where you're spending resources on things,

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that

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really aren't

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investments that are going to be in their best interest

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for the long haul. And so we got with our kids and we wanted everyone and right

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down Are some your goals. What are your dreams?

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And we did that. And in that conversation, I

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expressed.

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some things that I wanted to accomplice.

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Now at that time, we were making ...I mean, we did some wild things for our kids.

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to make things work for them and to make things work, which way in the Nfl

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you know, with living in different cities and

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Mhmm.

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commuting hour and a half a day, you know, doing all these different things until I wanna

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to go back to school. I did not complete my degree.

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because Troy and I got married when I was nineteen, I was at Temple University.

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And then, you know, where life started happening kids,

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boom boom all of that. And

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So I said, I wanna go back to school and complete my degree and something that was meaningful

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for me. And I knew that food was something that

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every stage of my life, it played such a significant role. It had so much

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power, so much healing power, bringing people to the table.

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And so I I shared it. I want.

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to be able to complete my degree, and I want to be able to get my

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family in a central location.

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because when we were, like, all going in different directions.

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And one of my sons said wait a minute.

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if you

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if we do that,

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then what about everybody else's dreams?

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Because

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us coming all into one place means that, you know,

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some some someone else's dreams may not occur.

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And I

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said,

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when

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in your life.

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have I never considered

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what was best for you?

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you achieving your goals?

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mm-mm

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Wow.

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What about me saying?

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that I want to include myself into this equation.

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because this is not complete mess if I'm absent from

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what's taking place in our life. There's enough room for everybody to shine.

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And

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it was just a moment where

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The light bulb went off.

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And

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everything that was occurring at that stage in our life

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I allowed.

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I cultivated

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because I gave everybody permission

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to to handle me and to support me

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based off of what I was giving out to them.

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And so

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it it it was a an a epiphany moment.

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that fast forward

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the ...it was like the dot started connecting on how I got here.

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Mm-mm

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Right. And, you know? And this is one thing that we

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Did you have anything that you want add there? I didn't mean to cut off?

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No. No. It just if

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just unbelievable.

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let we do that.

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Yeah. Because one of the things that I say,

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Right? And i'm one of the things that I say in in this podcast, and this is what I love about this so much.

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about giving this platform is because of time and time can that always comes back.

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is that when we start following a passion or following something that

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is our path that is meant to be whether you believe in god or whether you believe in the universe?

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But I really believe that God has a path for us and

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when you start following what your your god given skills are,

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and what you're, you know, meant to do, the universe just opens up.

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and it opens up, and it's like, as you said, the connecting the dots, it's like another doors open

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opens up. Now at times, the doors get, you know, closed and you're like, okay,. That was not the direction. I was supposed

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to go in, but it keeps opening up when you follow that that passion and

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when I was reading the article and the playbook and, you know, listening to some of your podcaster and stuff,

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it

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it really shows that that's what was happening to you. Right? It was all of a sudden, you had this

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epiphany that, okay, this is how this is what I'm meant to be doing, and then you

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kept moving forward because that's what I want the listeners to hear because sometimes you

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you hear what you're supposed to be doing or you get a sense or you have a feeling

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but you don't take action, and so the doors don't open up, but you kept taking

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steps.

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and then they kept opening. What what do you ...like, do you feel that same way or do you have

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same mindset or, you know, do you wanna add anything to that?

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Now. I agree one hundred

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percent one of the things. And and for me, it's definitely

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I believe that my steps are ordered.

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Mhmm.

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I trust that when Guy created me, he did not make any mistakes.

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And so every aspect of my life is going to be used

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to ensure that at every stage of my life,

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I'm equipped.

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to do what is necessary for those moments in time.

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And so one of the things that every morning, when I wake up, I

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ask God to

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order my thoughts.

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because if my steps are already in place,

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Now I have to tap into a mental space

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of, you know,

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where my mind sinks. Those are the things that are going

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to occur that day because that's gonna to be the priorities of which I'll focus on.

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And so for me, if if if I can get my thoughts ordered,

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I'm insured to walk in those steps that are already in place for me to have

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says.

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Mhmm.

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And so

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that is has been critical for me in maintaining

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what I call a deliverance, you know, like, my moment where

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I was in thinking saying, no doubt about it, and it

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that type of

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it's it's a slippery slope that just as quickly as you get out of it

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can get back into it.

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And so recognizing understanding who I am, it really took

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deliberate actions on me beginning to know me in a very intimate way.

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and taken the time to tune into Tommy.

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and not allowing

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the noise of all the aspects of my life

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that are going on, and that will continue to happen because

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my family just

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every single person, I believe that they're here with great

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purpose and that if they do what they're supposed to be doing, that they will continue to

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shine. So I don't expect the throttle

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for the throttle for the the pedal.

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to be released at any point in time, I believe we're gonna continue to soar.

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where I am, and what's important is

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Mhmm.

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that I'm soaring with my family

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And how do I do that? How do I make sure that I

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and continuing to move forward. I gotta know what works for Tommy.

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what causes is tommy to thrive? And what causes is Tommy to

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be able to enjoy every aspect of this life that

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she's been been given into walking the power and the authority that's in her.

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I gotta know everything about me.

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everything about me, so when stuff is off and stuff isn't right,

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I'm not looking for validation and confirmation from anyone outside of me.

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I can immediately make the adjustments required so that I maintain the forward

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trajectory of my life.

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Yes. And I think that's so important. And I remember Cynthia saying something in her interview as well, and I think this is what

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you know, a theme for everyone everyone should hear because not everyone believes in in god

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in the same way, but you are the person that controls your life.

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not your husband, not your children, not the outside world. You are response

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for your own happiness. And cynthia, that was something that, you know, Michael said to you that I was

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so like, yes. You know, that is that takes

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This is

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guts to also say to someone. Right? Because It's like, you know, you don't wanna hurt them.

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but it is so true. And that's when I want the listeners to hear and anyone that's listening out there whether you're

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me on our woman. You can't look outside of you.

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for your own happiness, you have to create it.

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and

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And so, Tommy, I love. I love everything that you said and, you know, going back to your son really quickly,

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the one that said, well, what about us? I mean, I'm right away, I was, like, he ...he must have been, like, a

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because

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teenager or like, a pre. Because

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I I have those right now. So

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you know,

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that is something that is not ...he wasn't saying it to hurt you.

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he was just, like, okay. Well, wait a second. But as you said,

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Mhmm.

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it was what you created. So I love how you kinda shifted that.

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and also shifted and it's a good ...you know, it's a really good

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reminder for all of us. Like, I'm in in the throws right now and everything you were saying. I was like, you know,

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I need to think about that a little bit more. And so, you know, thank you for sharing that.

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So can you also now take us through

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when you said how we can get everyone together because I can't we to dive into this part too. So what

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did you create after you went to school and and the inspiration behind that?

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as well other than, you know, you knew that you wanted to follow.

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this passion.

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So what I did

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for my own well being was I established

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a women's retreat.

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that I've been doing now for seven years. This that was the start of everything.

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because I wanted to make sure I recognize that

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And I know that this applies men and women, but I'm a woman. So I'm speaking specific

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from my experience.

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that

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Oftentimes, we suffer in silence

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whether it's shame or you, you know, believe that where you are in your life,

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you're the only one that's experiencing it, and it does take courage

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to lean on other people, and when you're so used to pouring out,

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you typically don't

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leave role to allow other people to support you.

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And so I wanted to create this space where women could come

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and they would have an opportunity to sit around with other women and

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and be empowered, receive tools, receive life lessons,

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and recognize it's not just you.

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you are not the only one that's experiencing what you're

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experiencing. And if we can tell our stories and we can share

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the triumphs and the victories and even the pitfalls

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we have an opportunity to

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learn from one another. And so I I created the Vent

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country women's retreat. And then once the pandemic

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happened. I knew that the retreat

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wasn't something that I could move virtually

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like that just wasn't the vision that I had. I needed to be in front of these women and

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touching them, and then also that whole week weekend I chef the entire time.

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And so then it was like, okay. But this table

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if I can make a larger table,

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and invite more women to the table in a medium.

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that will allow for me to

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still fill my gift flourishing and provides

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phase four gifts of other women to flourish. What would that be?

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And that's when I started the stay podcast.

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because I knew I would be able to get into more homes and it's

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more ears and to really allow for this conversation to

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transform the lives of any and every

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that just was well the pull to the table. You know, everybody's well

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so you come to the table. You gonna get fed. You're gonna get nurse and

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not just from me,

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And I think that that's sometimes what can happen when we start

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when we start flourishing, it's not about

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being selfish, you know, self care is not selfish just necessary.

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but you also have to remember that

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when you get empowered, it's so

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important for us to make sure we're empowering others around us so that

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the tools that we acquired can now become tools for other people's

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boxes.

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Yes. I

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I love that. Cynthia, can you really click can you just mute your mic there's a little bit of

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feedback

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Oh

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Oh, sure. But I do wanna say something before I mute out.

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Hear.

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Yeah. Of course, yeah.. Yeah. Just ...no. No worries.

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I I think that what you just said, self care is not selfish.

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that is something right there to that we all really need to remember

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because getting right back to your conversation with your family,

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You know, you mentioned yourself in the equation and for a lot of

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kids that scare you when long start to talk about anything that takes your focus away.

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from them because it's that's what they're used to. So it's frightening.

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So I think the earlier that families and people can learn that

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that when you're taking care of yourself, you're not being selfish. You're just self press preservation, which

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everybody will benefit from in the long run. So I think that was really important.

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and, you know, cynthia it it's

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Now

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It was

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it was not instill. Sometimes there there is resistance

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to

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putting a stake in the ground for yourself.

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and having your own lines of demar.

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to make sure that you

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maintain a healthy mental well being

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and

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even as I move forward,

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it was like a

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you know, this this tu,

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But

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for me,

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they were not going to win, and it wasn't me versus

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them. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is because change

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in growth, it creates, you know,

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a whole new dynamic that there was some discomfort

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But I can tell you it wasn't uncomfortable for me. It felt wonderful.

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Mhmm.

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it was the people that were used to me being one way in seeing me

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begin to thrive and to heal aspects of me that needed healing

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that's where the discomfort weather. So I could not allow

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for their feelings to dictate

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what I was going to do next

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this process when you get to the space where you are, like,

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I'm snatch my life back. You cannot allow for your

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feelings to drive this thing because our fill ends will have a

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one day down the next, you gotta set the course.

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and you gotta stay focused on the endpoint, and then

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clean they are getting to there and putting in your plan in place for

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how do I get from here to there? Regardless hat of how I

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feel on any given day, remain committed

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to the process and keep moving

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forward.

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Yes. I love that. I love that.

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excellent. Mhmm.

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Right. I mean, that's so important so that I just wanna touch on that really quickly because I think

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Some people also think, okay, well, self Care because that is ...it's something and I love that you

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that resonated with you as well because it can look different to everyone.

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some people think self care means like you're going to get a massage.

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for some people that is. Right? But other people, it can be as simple as

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doing a dog walk without any without the noise.

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right just listen to music or listening to podcaster or listening to something that. Like, I know very I realized

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waking up before my children and before the whole house spoke up,

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was my time, and that was really important to me, And I need that every every

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every morning, even though I can be in the thrive of things, I don't need a lot of a alone time.

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But once I start my day that way, and and then after I get the kids all

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settled. You know, when in school was there, Get them going, then I would take my dog

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for a walk, and I would do that again. Sometimes my husband would

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join me, but, usually, it was when

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was my ...like, it it was times I actually, when I find my most creative mind

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is when I'm walking my dogs, and I'm just out in nature.

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and so it's important that everyone finds a different

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part of self care. What do you what do you think of that? And cynthia, and and Tell me, if you guys can

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joint a, You know, kind of share with us what you found over time has worked

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for you that gives you that that clear mind and and unless you start your day correct.

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or end your day correct. You know, I would love

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I think it's critical to have a self care plan for every environment

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you will occupy. And so they're

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for me,

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my self care, like you, Juliet is

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part of it, the first part of it is I need to make sure that I

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rise why the house is still still so that I could do the things that's

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sarah for me just to get my mind right. And so for me, it's

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I spend time in prayer meditation

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I work out, and then I

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you know, start moving on what my day, but even like small things,

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when everyone is together,

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you know, the chaos, the the chaos assumes, but it's

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for me, the chaos I love it. You know, that that's my life.

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I always have music playing

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for me,

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in my home. And for me, that's my self care in the

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of everyone else because it's continually feeding me

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you know, i playlist that that speak to me

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And so that's an aspect of self care, and then

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you know, in work spaces,

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when you're in

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in a at work environment,

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just because you have responsibilities there and you're engaging in interacting with other

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people and, you know, things can happen. You still need to have aspects

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of self care there, Like,

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are you doing to set your environment? How what do you have on your desk?

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that speaking to you that can be, you know, you're having a conversation with

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someone that if that isn't going so well or that pisses you off

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but then you have something over here on your desk that is your constant your grounding point.

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where you look at it and you read it and it brings you back to yourself recognizing

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Okay. I need to make sure that I am

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making sure that I'm good in this situation, you know,

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So making sure that

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we don't leave self care to a moment.

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or a special occasion or, you know,

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something that can only happen at one point in time in our day.

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as we're moving through our day,

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making sure that we have our self care in place

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for every environment that we will occupy because we're just we deserved it. We are

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worthy event.

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Yeah.

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My gosh. I love that. I got the chills again because I have ...I have to work out every

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morning as well because if I don't ...I love the chaos.

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but I am the best in the chaos when I've worked out and got my because I've

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tons of energy. And if I don't like, kind of give a little outlet,

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for my energy, and sometimes my energies old too much for my house

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sometimes they'll be like, oh, my gosh. Okay, mom. So that the working how kinda brings me down

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a little bit. So I but ...I think it's so important when you said about your work

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space you. I was actually just looking around. I'm like, okay. There's my thing. I didn't even realize, that that's my thing.

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but that is what I look at when I kind of ...went i'm My brain is swirling. So

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Thank you for that. And and the music music is just ...I mean, I love that.

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your house to sounds ...you know, I ...I literally transported myself into it. And i was like, oh hey i'm we'll

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into music in this, you know, and and the chaos of things. So thanks, Tommy me for that.

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Cynthia, do you wanna share what your self care is and, you know, how you found that as well?

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Yeah. I

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i think so. I think that it is ...and ...and I feel so grateful for

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because I really do feel like what goes on in my head has been a true guest

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in a blessing, but I feel like that no matter what I'm doing,

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I'm always busy in my head with one of the projects

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or one of the stories or whatever that I'm doing I'm visiting the head because I'm not one

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to enjoy doing the things you have to do around the home.

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the things that need to be done. I'm not, like, wasting why work

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I'm thinking about all the fun things I can't lead to do when all these things are done,

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so I think that being busy in my head, that's my workout. That's my piece.

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creating things thinking about things thinking of ideas and getting really excited about them.

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not all of them can happen and not all them will happened, but just kind of like,

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tossing those ideas around

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have always has always been helpful and also,

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keeping my friendships chips from ...since I was little

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my girls, they are a big part of my life. There. Now they ants to my kids.

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know, they

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they know that there are priority in my life. So I feel really

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happy that I kind set precedent it and said if somebody would meet me or call me that

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my entire family knows that I have to drop it because there are such a priority in my life.

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so my kids are just a tune to that and used to it. So holding onto to those deer,

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friendships with people and women that know me since i was little in, like, my

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sister and my mother and my aunts, those women. That's important to me.

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so that's my kind of workout.

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I love that.

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our piece. Mhmm.

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Yeah. I love that. And I was literally laughing so loud because I'm i'm saying my brain never stops

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I remember there was a time where Dan and I were first dating and we were, like, sitting on a beach and I was like,

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and I never asked this so I don't know why I did., but I was like okay what are you thinking?

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and he's like, nothing. And I was like, that's impossible. How do you think of nothing? And he's like,

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literally thinking of nothing. And I'm like, you're not thinking, like, oh,

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the trees are, like, look nice and look at the bird. He's like, no.

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he because is something going on in your brain at all times. I'm like,

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all times.

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but I love that. Right? I love that chaos. My love always thinking

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So something, I totally brought me back into your family as well.

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So I think that's beautiful. Tommy, I did wanna

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do ...when I was reading the article, there was something that you ...it was a quote.

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that I'm gonna quote, and then I just would love you to touch on this because there it's just

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so

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beautiful, And I think it's such a great reminder for everyone in every stage of their life.

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you wrote when you sit down with your family, you have the opportunity

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to do a pulse chat. And so I want you to touch on that.

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and explain what that means to you.

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I am a huge proponent about

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getting the family back to the dinner table.

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when

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there's something magical that happens when the family has an opportunity to

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it down to food that was prepared with love.

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And and cynthia yeah, I don't know if if

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cooking is your thing. It doesn't even matter if you cook it or not, but the

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tension behind the food that is served to your family needs everything.

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And so

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sitting around with that food and

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having conversation is so critical and

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I call it the pulse check.

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because I need to be able to look into every

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eyes, and they need to be able to look into mine.

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because you never know when someone is in need of resuscitation.

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And if we just keep moving throughout life and

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you know, passing by each other, like, ship selling through the night,

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it is very easy to a assume

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that all as well.

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And with the demands of choice jobs,

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the pressure of, you know, just being young people right now,

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it's so critical that we have those opportunities

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to pour life into one another because

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regardless of what's happening outside of the walls of your home.

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home should always be a safe space, and

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if we fuel each other,

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the way that we had the capabilities of doing we provide

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fuel for the rocket so that when we step back into the world,

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that all of us can take off. And so I am all about the pulse

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check and all about getting the family back to the table.

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Yeah. I wanted to say, Tommy that

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you know, because our kids are similar in age, and the only

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time we are together now is over

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dinners that we create sometimes at eleven Pm

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when everybody comes in and we wait for it because

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you know the boys cook, You know, I do all the dumb things around

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dinner, you know, all the appetizers and salads and whatever a bit

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seeing the kids when they walk in the door and waiting for them to have

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something to eat together is it's just everything to me. And so I love it.

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you're encouraging, and I love back to the table and

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know everything that you're doing to encourage you everybody just to

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just to sit together for a little bit.

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I do. And I have to say because I love that. And I ...you know,

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I'm a little bit like cynthia with the ...with the household stuff the Mundane stuff. I don't love. So

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cooking is not. I'm I cook very healthy and very bland. My kids are always like a

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my husband is an amazing clock. Amazing.

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And so during Covid, we were so fortunate to have him home where he's cooking now

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all the time. I haven't cooked in a year and a half.

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this is wonderful. And but sitting down because that is our

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favorite thing to do as well is and, you know, My kids are a little bit younger, but we're still all over

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place with different sports. And when they were a little bit younger,

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and this it brought me back. And I was actually ...it brought a conversation where I was talking to

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kids and they were remembering it. So it was also such like a nice thing. I was like, oh, I loved that.

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telling me just said that. And, you know, simply captured that in the playbook because

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we used to do a thing where we would say it was happy

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sad, angry, and then we added embarrassing. So we would every time we would

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sit down for dinner. We would say, okay. Let's talk about our day.

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can everyone talk about something that made them happy today?

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can something, you know, someone talk about bad, and it was

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something very similar what you said tommy me it was because I wanted to

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to see we added embarrassing because it was like, okay. A lot of times, it was like, no. Nothing really sad.

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happened. It was ...you would just get the happy. And so I was, like, no. We need a couple different emotions here.

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let's really dive into this because it is so important when everyone is going in different

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actions and, you know, the

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the two of you being Nfl thousands I mean, your directions

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you know, I I can kind of understand it, but not really because your directions were

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so much more.

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and the fact that that is still such an important thing says

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so much about both of your family units and and the love and the respect

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that you guys have for each other, which is so important and raising your children because

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it is

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it is a really beautiful thing to do it as a couple if you have that and you're able

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kind of be like, okay, let's let's dive into the children. So

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I I love that that, you know, as as Cindy said,

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you know, the the stay a wild, stay a while, the Youtube and where you're doing back

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of the table and you guys are cooking and and people can kind of get a sense of

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the love that you have and the love that

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you had as a child that you brought into your life now.

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So do you wanna add anything more it's there? Because then I also wanna jump into vincent country because I know we're coming

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to the end. But I I ...this is another thing that I think is so important that for the listeners,

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to to hear.

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Yeah. I would actually like to add. You mentioned a couple of the

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platforms that I'm currently working on, and I just want to

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you know, I share the story about that moment at the table where my son

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you know, was like, how

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you know, how does this affect us?

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it has an effect in anyone negatively

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every

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everything about where I am today has improved my relationship with my husband.

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improve my relationship with my children, and I am shining.

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And so I think

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when we're starting to make changes in our life, it can even be

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scary for us because we're so used to the routine, and we're so used

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to what it is.

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And

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So

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thinking about

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the future

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and the possibilities, sometimes can cause us to paralyze

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and allow fear to grip us so we don't start taking those steps forward.

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and I just wanna encourage everybody that is listening

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when you're afraid,

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you need to understand you're on the right track.

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and lean into that fear and allow that fear

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to cause you

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to be a force behind you pushing you forward

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Because one day, you'll look back and you'll remember the moment when you were afraid,

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and you'll be so grateful that you bet on you.

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because you have the keys to your success.

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Yes. I'm literally

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I was muted screaming going yes, because it is so important. And I think what you

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on is because you are following something that you're passionate about

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and you're following your path, You are

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then being able to fill everyone's cop up. And so that is something that I think is

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so important because I look back at my, you know, my life

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and I've always I'm a very positive very happy person.

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but I have to say right now, in what I'm doing with this podcast and my coaching,

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is what I was meant to do. And so I know that I am showing up

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as the best person each day from my family because

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I took that risk, and is it scary as you said, yes, but you can't let fear

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stop you because we all have one life.

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And if we don't follow what we're meant to follow and we let fear,

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What is that? Like, regret and being bored or like,

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two of the things that I would. ...Like, why would ...why would I ever wanna do that? I live one life

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I wanna look back and be like, yes. I love that I had balls

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to do that. And, yes, I love that my kids got to see me and they call me. I think that's

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one thing in Cynthia and I've have talked about this because she does you know the same

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I think it's important for our kids to see that we all that were people, and we all have

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we have goals, and we have ambitions, and we wanna do stuff too. We ...you know, we chose to be moms.

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And I am I've ...that that was my greatest

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you know, my greatest accomplishment. I love that I created three

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amazing children. I love the relationship I have with my husband and, you know, my two dogs in there as well.

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but I also want them to know

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that

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I am more than just their mom.

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I'm a woman.

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that has something to share.

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I'm a woman I'm gonna be able to teach other women to be better.

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than they were yesterday, and I think that's so important for our kids

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to see that our daughters are sons too. So I love that. So

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I want to really quickly touch on Vincent country, and I went with love

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for you to talk about this because this is another quote that really stood out to me.

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And you said when I stepped into the streets,

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my country is Vincent.

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can you explain that and how other families can benefit from menacing

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country and what you're doing with that,

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that's

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my country is

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it is literally

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our lifestyle.

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And

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the point of it all, we have

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three pillars are faith our family in our food.

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and our hopes

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for events and country is that we will be able

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to

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socialize our life.

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our lifestyle

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and that we will empower other families

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to recognize that they too are their own country.

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you know, we look ex it it

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or the exterior of our life. And

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we look at other people's lives, and we'll start to compare. We'll start to

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you know, feel some kind of way about the circumstances of our situation.

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And it's so important to recognize that you have the power to

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create whatever country you desire in whatever type of

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lifestyle

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that is going to cause every single person in your family

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to

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thrive. And so with Vincent country, we do that.

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for a very long time, we did not allow any aspects

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of who we were to be public because

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it was just something that we had made a decision early on, and then

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we recognize wait a minute. We've we have some life experiences that other people

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can glean from if they choose to. And if people can recognize that, I don't

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hear what you came from. I don't care where you're at.

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that right where you are,

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you can find success.

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you should look on your life and be proud of

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your life and where you are. And if you're not pre,

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then make the adjustments necessary for you to do that.

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and not every household has two parents.

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not every household has parents. You you have grandparents that are

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leave in the charge, you have single pairs that are doing what's necessary will whomever

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the caregivers givers are

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we need to be proud of those situations in circumstances because we're here

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we have an opportunity to make sure that we leave this earth

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fully empty and depositing all the things that are within us.

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so finding success where you are and developing your own country,

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And I just wanna touch on Juliet real quick.

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as moms.

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it's so important to humanize ourselves.

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And so when I talk about

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taking off the cape, the super cape,

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you know, when your husband and your children or whomever is looking to you,

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oftentimes, we we take the burdens of life, and we just

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put it on our back and we just keep moving and we just get it done.

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all they know what she got it done.

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And so there is a willingness to

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just lay everything in our feet.

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because we don't display our humanity

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And so I am deliberate about taking off the

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kate and humanize myself and letting Troy know and letting the kids know

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that this does not work for me.

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I don't have the capacity to do this right now. I can do this

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for you on

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this day at this time or whatever the case may be,

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but I have one person

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And in order for me to effectively

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be available for me and for you, I need to make sure

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that I am doing things in a manner

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that is going to allow for me to fully

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b

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everything that I had the possibilities of being

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Yes.

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Oh my gosh. Tommy, this is

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amazing, amazing. And I just ...everything you say just resonate

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so much with me. And, also, as I said, because I'm in this a

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different a little bit of a different stage of life. You've been in the stage of life.

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And so it's also such a great

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reminder because I am, you know, my business is just starting to boom.

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And so it is, sometimes they say to the kids, guys,

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I need help right here. Like, I'm trying to do something because I am

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following a passion of buying and you guys see how much this means to me. I need you guys to

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step it up.

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Right? And I think that is so important that you said it and so important for our husbands to see that, like,

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you know, my husband's always been the bread winner, and he is very supportive, and I'm very

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fortunate that I have his support, but there's times where I'll say to him like, I I need you to do this.

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I'm trying to do this. And so, again, having the open communication

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and letting

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our kids and our family know how we feel like, in our family, we don't ...as I say that, you know, the kids don't

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disgusting things because they're gonna come out somewhere else. You gotta express it.

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So we are very and I think that's very important for

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everyone out there to hear and also in in business in any kind of aspect

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of like, you have to

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be honest with yourself, and you have to speak your truth. You can't

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stuff it. And I know, like, i some people can stuff it, and I know Catherine in the audience, we've

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talked about that Catherine was on.

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and this podcast as well. And it's true. It's gonna come out

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in a different

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in a different place. So I just wanna thank you again, Tommy

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so much. I would love for you to plug yourself, but I also wanna say thank you, Gina, and Ken,

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Hannah and Catherine and Landon and Karen and Crystal,

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and no. I'm gonna say your name, but but

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barking. I'm sorry. If I said that wrong, but all of you

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me and Patrick for joining in this conversation. I know there's been people in and out

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but we appreciate this, and this is why live with Nfl thread

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Tommy Vincent is our first guest for this

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the series, this partnership, and I just can't wait to continue in Tony. I just

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love everything that you're saying. I think that you're doing. It's such

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an amazing job for so many out there showing

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your life and how you can

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you know, do

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things by following your passion, but also,

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still a mom and st being a wife, but not as you said, doing it all at once they're

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times where you need to separate it. And you know, Cynthia, thank you for

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for bringing this all up. So, Tommy, I would love you guys can see the fortune cookie here.

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There is ...that's chef Tommy z. You can follow Tommy on

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Ig, but Tommy, can you shout out the ...you know, where other people they can find you is

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other than

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I.

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Yes.

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So in addition to at chef Tommy v on

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Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook,

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You can also follow along with at st

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show on Instagram, and I do Monday, night lives,

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with some amazing people, and I also share the

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podcast day awhile content on that page as well.

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and the podcast day a awhile, you can listen anywhere that you listen to your podcast.

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I also had a Youtube channel where I

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low cooking content, and that is

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the channel is at chef Tommy b. So

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Oh, and that let me not forget the website for vincent

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country, which is vincent dot com, and that's also

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the social media handle everywhere, also at Vincent country.

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But thank you so much, Joel yet, and Cynthia ...once again, we're creating this

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powerful platform.

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there's so much power and voices

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being amplified and providing people with an opportunity

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to share who they are in such an authentic way. So I really appreciate it.

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beautiful. I wanted to end it with

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Gina is here in the audience, and I wanted to mention that Gina had

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listen to your podcast, and let me know that

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her your presence was like, pajamas for the soul.

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And I thought that was this weirdest most awesome thing that i

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say about somebody, and I totally agree.

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goodness that is you sent that to me, and it literally made my heart

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smile so big because that

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it ...for me,

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it brought. I felt like that is what I

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I desire, it's like bringing people into my women's retreat, and that was amazing.

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be

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I really appreciated that That was feel from

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beautiful.

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Awesome,. And you guys can also listen to Gina who has been on Fireside if you wanna

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into her episode as well. And guys,

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definitely keep coming back, find Tommy. If this will be put up

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on podcast players in the next couple weeks, and you'll

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there'll be show notes, but you will be able to view the recording here on Fireside.

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And again, don't forget to tune in.

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follow all of us because we also all haven't sent

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what you shout yours out, I buying as I am Juliet Han,

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and you can find me in any of the social media. That's also where my website is.

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you'll find out when we're doing the next Nfl

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thread

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with y live. So Cynthia, why you also shout out where people can find you as well.

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I think for me, the best is to go to Nfl thread dot

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because I have everything right there.

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Perfect.

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Well, again, thank you, everyone for joining in. Thank you, Tommy. I loved getting

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know you and just keep doing what you're doing. You are literally

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lighting the world in fire in such a beautiful beautiful way.

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So thanks, guys.

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Thank

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you.

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